Today, it’s fair to say you will probably know someone who has dabbled with drugs. In fact, it’s believed that across the UK it’s estimated that nearly 10% of the adult population use drugs. And we all know more than 10 people, right?
Across the country, drug problems are also worsening and it’s important to look after those around us who may be suffering, whether that be partners, children, friends, colleagues or family.
Reaching out and encouraging them to get the help they need is a must. That could be to get help with the extremity of heroin addiction, the rising number of people hooked on cocaine, or even help with their drinking, which may be spiralling as a result of trying to get by in the world.
But getting the help they need is a lot easier said than done and staging an intervention, which essentially what it is, has to be approached with caution.
So, how do you do it then? Here are five top tips that will help you get it right and ensure your loved one gets the help they need…
Plan Carefully in Advance
An intervention should never be improvised. Take the time to prepare thoroughly, ideally with the guidance of a healthcare professional, counsellor, or intervention specialist. Consider who should be present: generally, those closest to the person, who are most likely to have a positive impact.
Each participant should prepare what they want to say, focusing on specific examples of behaviour rather than general criticism. Rehearsing beforehand helps ensure that emotions remain controlled and that the meeting follows a clear structure. Having treatment options ready to present, such as rehab centres UK or support groups, makes it easier for the individual to act immediately.
Choose the Right Time and Place
Timing is crucial. Interventions are more likely to succeed when the person is sober or at least not under the immediate influence of drugs. Aim for a calm, private environment where the conversation can take place without distractions or interruptions.
Avoid locations that may trigger cravings or emotional outbursts, such as pubs or areas linked to past drug use. The setting should feel safe and supportive, reinforcing the message that the intervention comes from a place of care rather than judgement.
Speak with Compassion, Not Accusation
One of the greatest risks in an intervention is that the person feels attacked, leading them to shut down or lash out. It is therefore vital to frame concerns in a compassionate, non-confrontational manner.
Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements. For example, “I feel worried when you disappear for days” rather than “You’re always letting us down.” This approach reduces defensiveness and makes it easier for the person to hear the underlying message of love and concern. Remember, the goal is not to blame but to open a door towards recovery.
Set Clear Boundaries and Consequences
While compassion is essential, so too is honesty. Part of an effective intervention involves setting boundaries and explaining the consequences if the person refuses to seek help. This might include no longer providing financial support, refusing to cover up for them at work, or limiting contact if their behaviour becomes harmful.
Boundaries are not about punishment; they are about protecting your own wellbeing and preventing the addiction from continuing unchecked. Communicating these boundaries firmly but respectfully demonstrates that while love remains unconditional, enabling destructive behaviour will not.
Offer Immediate and Practical Support
Finally, an intervention is most effective when it leads directly to action. If the person agrees to seek help, ensure that treatment options are readily available. This could mean having a rehabilitation programme pre-arranged, transport organised, or even a first appointment with a GP booked.
Delays between agreeing to seek help and accessing it can reduce motivation, so being prepared is vital. At the same time, offer ongoing support: accompany them to appointments, check in regularly, and consider attending family support groups yourself. Recovery is not a single event but a long-term process, and your continued presence can make a significant difference.
